I believe I get to choose my reaction to all of life's circumstances. There seems to be a pervasive belief that we need a reason to feel good. Since my natural state is blissful, I actually need to accept a reason to feel lousy.

I choose to believe that I can never be too happy.  My inner critics challenged this pursuit by saying, "when are you going to grow up?"  As if being happy is the opposite of being grown up. Being too happy does not imply being irresponsible.   True happiness excludes irresponsibility.  Irresponsibility would lead to unpleasant consequences, thus detracting from happiness.  My ruthless pursuit of happiness excludes irresponsible behaviors.

So, since I get to choose my thoughts, and I can never be too happy, I can always chose to presume the best. It just takes practice.

This works for me and for some others I know.  I can hear objections, "aren't there times when it's appropriate to feel lousy?"  That's your choice, but feeling lousy doesn't feel good, feeling happy does.  I am enjoying life.

Unrealistic?   The question to be debated is "is it unrealistic to be happy all the time?" As an adult on a spiritual path, I do not let other people determine my reality.  As adults we make our own choices.  The more we define our own truth, the more fulfilling our lives are.  Can you ever be too happy?  You get to choose, and you only have to answer to yourself.  Do you ever have a good reason to feel lousy?  Can you see how silly that question is?
     

  -yours happily,
    Kate
 
 

Keep checking this site I expect to change the issue I'm jostling with each month.
 

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